Think about a time when you felt particularly happy.
What makes you happy ?📣📌📌Was it because you had loved ones near?
Because you were surrounded by a beautiful landscape? |
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Because
you had just accomplished your goals? Or were you happy because you have been
successfully in economy?
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“What
makes you happy?” That seems like a simple question, but the truth is that many
people don't know. Psychological research on happiness has identified several
things people have in common. The types of things that makes happy, the
things they think will make them happy, and the differences between the two.
This
study has been conducted through interviews; it was purposely for exploring the
basics of happiness among the youth within the society.
“What are the secrets behind a happy life?.”
Happiness
is the worthiest thing for the successfully human growth. Sometimes people
spend their money and time for exploring it either to themselves or for the
sake of their relatives in their relations.
Thoughtful,
driven people spend so long reflecting about what makes a meaningful life; they
sometimes lose sight of what actually feels good to them on a daily.
The
study has found that although there are several things that contribute to one’s
happy but they all grouped into three basics that makes people happy; close relationships, peace and success. On the other hand, “money” and “material things” do not
have a lot to do with happiness, and people who emphasize them are less happy
than those who do not.
People
who have had a “happy past” are more likely to have a happy present and future.
On the other hand, people with “bad experiences” may well dwell on these,
carrying the unhappiness forward with them. In this way, the “past can create
the future”.
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Furthermore,
people who are optimistic, by definition feel happier now about the future. They
assume that things will be better than they likely will be, even in the face of
a negative past.
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People who are not bothered by the past or future can also
just be happy in the present moment. Worry about the future is a common creator
of unhappiness, and stopping worrying can give you a huge boost.
It's
not so much that being healthy makes people happy;being
unhealthy makes them unhappy, especially when society stigmatizes.
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Overall,
and over time, the people who report the deepest happiness and well-being are
those who give of themselves - who live beyond their mere egos.
Success makes me happy
Having
a job or hobby that they love and that challenges them and helping others
through volunteer work, random acts of kindness or another type of pro-social
behavior.
Happy
people are successful. Or is it the other way around? What we know is that if
you are successful in marriage, friendship, income, work and health, then you
are more likely to be happy.
Sadness
depresses the immune system as well as the mood. Happiness acts in the opposite
way. Being healthy also sure beats being unhealthy. Happiness and health are
thus a two-way causal street.
But
what about money? After all, if you don't have any money, it's very easy to
believe that lots of money will make you happy. But that's not what
psychologists have found.
Once
your basic necessities are met, research has shown that additional money does
not have a lot to do with happiness. So, while billionaires may fly on private
jets to luxurious spas all over the world, it doesn't mean that they are any
happier than people who drive 10-year-old cars and fly coach.
However,
focusing on money and material things can make you profoundly unhappy. Research
has shown that people who put a lot of emphasis on money and things are not as
happy as non-materialistic people.
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“What
makes me happy is when I see success
is approaching” one of candidate replied.
People
who challenge themselves, seeking to learn and achieve find pleasure not only
in reaching their goals but also in the struggle and focus to get there.
They
often set both smaller and larger goals, enabling them to get a sense of
achievement in each of the little steps along the way to the greater joy of
achieving something significant.
"Good close relationship makes me happy”.
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The best indicator
of a person's happiness is the quality of his or her close relationships.
Whether
you're talking about romantic relationships, family dynamics, or simply close
friendships, the happier you are in your social engagements, the happier you
are in general; As one of the respondent replied “To be loved
is what makes me happy, it hurts when someone hates me”.
Affective
forecasting is the process of guessing how you will feel under specific “future
circumstances”.
Affect
is just another word for emotion or mood. If I said that tomorrow you were
going to lose your job, break up with your partner and fail a test, I'll bet
you could pretty accurately predict what your emotional state would be.
But
how effective are people at affective forecasting when it comes to happiness?
Not very; research has shown that most people make consistent errors when
guessing what will make them happy in the future.
Think
about this: if you could either be a powerful manager of a large company,
making trillions of money, or work part-time at a small organization, barely
making enough to cover your bills, which would you choose? Which do you think
would make you happier?
If
you're like most people, you probably said making lots of money would make you
happier. But, as you might have guessed from the “research on money and
happiness”, that's not the case for most people. When you think more deeply
about the jobs, you'll realize that a manager of a large company might make a
lot of money, but she/he also works very long hours at a stressful job.
Quality
relationships are the factor most likely to lead to happiness. Observation
shows that relationships determines one’s happy.
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Caring
for others gets you out of yourself and stops you worrying. Seeing others who
are less fortunate than you can also have a contrastive motivation. If you have
an internal values that says caring is
right, then by caring for others you increase internal alignment.
People
who are grateful for their lot in life and who show gratitude towards others
for the things they receive have been found to be happier. volunteering creates
feelings of greater self-esteem and psychological well-being. The more one
volunteers, the more positive the effect, further adding to feelings of
happiness.
Notably,
thanks can be found in many religious prayers. People who follow a religion are generally happier than
those who do not.
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“Good relationship with Jesus makes me happy, once I do
against is what makes me hurt” respondent replies.
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Whether
or not it is true, faith gives you security of knowing such comforts that you
and yours will survive death and may be forgiven for your sins. It also gives
meaning to lives and may well promote a healthy lifestyle.
People
who follow a religion are generally happier than those who do not. “Only Jesus
makes me happy, when I go against his rules and commandment I become hurt”.
Whether or not it is true, faith gives you security of knowing such comforts
that you and yours will survive death and may be forgiven for your sins. It also
gives meaning to lives and may well promote a healthy lifestyle.
Belonging
to a religious group also adds the benefit of friends who are likely obliged by
the religion to help out in times of need. “Doing God’s will is what makes
happy, forgetting his will is what makes me hurt”.
Belonging
to a religious group also adds the benefit of friends who are likely obliged by
the religion to help out in times of need.
Those
with a sense of fun and who can laugh, especially at themselves, are generally
happier.
Laughing
at yourself implies a sound sense of security with a reduced tendency to worry,
which in turn contributes to happiness.
When
people keep busy they are often happier than those who slow down, watch TV,
surf the net and other less active things.
Activity
reduces time for moping, adds interest and increases the chance of meeting
others and finding happiness in new areas. Not too surprisingly, exercise makes
people happier.
“Jogging
makes me happy”. When people work out, endorphins, which are natural
painkillers, are released creating feelings of euphoria. A perfect example of
this is runner’s high, but luckily, the feeling can also be achieved in other,
more fun, ways.
Of
course you can be unhappily married, but a lot of people are content with their
marital lot. People in successful marriages are happier overall than people who
are not.
There
are many these days who are not married, but who are in stable, committed
relationships. As long as this is effectively the same as marriage, then they
also can be happier.
People
who have rich social networks, with good friends who will help them out when
they are down are generally happier. They have the pleasure of meeting people
they trust and the sense of security in knowing there's always someone there
who can help.
Studies
have found that even spending time on social media looking at photos of your
friends (you know, the ones you actually like) can raise oxytocin levels making
people happier than they were before they looked at photos or status updates.
Human beings, it seems, need to feel love and connection through personal
relationships in order to feel happy. Who knew?!
“Peace makes me happy”
All
three of these things make sense. I'll bet you weren't very surprised that
solid relationships, engaging ways to spend your time and prosocial behavior
all contribute to happiness.
March 20, is the annual International Day of Happiness. The day came
about after a 2011 UN General Assembly, where the importance of happiness was
discussed as not just a priority for global health, but also as a “fundamental
human goal,” from which all things — even economic growth — can benefit. With
this realization about the importance of happiness in mind, the first UN
Conference of Happiness was held in 2012 and it was decided that starting in
2013, every March 20 to follow would be celebrated as International Day of
Happiness.
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